One of my biggest struggles as a SAHM is staying at home.
I struggle with not having connections with people, with not every leaving the house, and with a general lack of self-discipline to correct any of the above issues. I don’t want my kids to have a life of boring nothingness because Mommy is too lazy (or just has no gumption to get up and do something about it) to make plans to get out of the house.
So, I’ve started making attempts to do something about all of this.
First, I’ve been working on making friends and stepping out of my comfort.
To do this, I had to accept that God has us here in Warsaw for at least a few more years, and I was tired of not having any real relationships (we’ve been here almost 2 years so far) and/or any “roots”.
So I met a friend to “hang out”. Then we had dinner with her and her hubbie. We’re hoping to get together again soon.
And, I asked one of the ladies at church to mentor me. Neither one of us knows what this might look like, but it’s at least a step in the right direction. (If you have any advice as to what this might look like – mentoring re: motherhood, being a wife, general life, spiritual life, etc, I would love your input!!)
Second, I’ve started “scheduling” activities for us to do outside our home.
Sundays, we have Sunday school and church.
Tuesdays, we have “story time” at the library and run all our errands.
I’m working on getting J to let me have Thursday afternoons “off” for some much needed Mommy time after four eleven plus hour days of just Mommy & kid time (he leaves before they get up and gets home about the time they are getting ready for bed).
Thirdly, now that the weather is beginning to be “outdoor worthy”, I’ve been trying to get outside for at least 30-60 mins every afternoon after naptime.
Some days that means driving to the park (about 1.5 miles away) so Jenny can slide, climb, swing, and have fun with her “friends” (whoever else happens to be there).
Other days, it means taking the kids in the backyard – sometimes we kick the ball, other times we dig in the dirt or fly our kite. (Sometimes Mommy even gets some yard work done!)
If the ground is too wet to play on, but the roads aren’t too busy (usually in the mornings), I’ll pile the kids in the wagon and we’ll take a walk in the nearby neighborhood (our street is too busy to walk on).
So, I’m working on getting out of the house.
My goal is at least two scheduled trips out each four day work week to help break up the time without Daddy at home.
And I’m working on building real relationships.
And I’m trying to make good use of my time at home with the kids.